Almost 40

Lifestyle, Uncategorized

On Wednesday I’ll be the big 4-OH.  My boss poignantly stated that this was the last week of my thirties and asked how I felt… I felt okay until it was put that way! But seriously.  This is just a few notes to encourage those leaving one decade for the next and wondering if they missed their “marks”

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  •  I LOOK GREAT

I know it sounds vain, but with God’s grace and some serious self care, I honestly look better leaving my 30’s than I did entering them.  The take away? Its never too late to make lasting changes that affect you for the better.  To date I have kept off the 20 lbs that I lost and i’m just striving to keep a healthy balance and yes, I still have dreams of a six pack ;-).

  • I AM WALKING OUT MY DREAM… JUST NOW

Have the world tell you, I’m too old to pursue a career in fashion; and even more so as a designer.  I won’t lie; I’ve been on this journey since my 20’s and allowed life and fear to dissuade me from really giving this thing a go.   But right now, on the brink of 40 I’ve never felt more ready.  I truly feel a resolve about the skin I am in and the steps I am making.  My clothing line is authentically me and I needed this time to realize that.  Prayerfully next year you will see The Style Co-op’s debut resort-wear line and the timing couldn’t be better.  The take away? Do it.  Afraid, bold, right now, later… The only thing you’ll regret is the regret from not moving.

  • I AM STILL SINGLE AND CHILDLESS

LOL Job 3:25 says: “For the thing I feared has overtaken me, and what I dreaded has happened to me.”  I laugh because this is me. I kept thinking God would “ram in a bush” me.  SURELY God has at least a bae for Jai at 40.  LOL nope. Nah. Nada. Nothing. The thing I feared the most.  No man, no hint of marriage, no children… and I’m pretty much 40.  It’s the worst and best thing to happen to me.  The worst because, I mean I want to be in a healthy, happy, thriving relationship filled with purpose and I’m not.  The best because 1) It didn’t happen and it not happening didn’t kill me 2) I’ve stopped holding my breath.  3) We don’t always get what we want and this is a great example of “losing” gracefully. aka not acting out or forcing something just to say I have. 4) I. DIDN’T. LOSE.  The take away? Points 1 & 2.

  • ORDER COMETH

Listen.  I saved the best for last!  I’ve always felt like I was juggling life.  That in order to take care of one thing, I had to lay another down.  Also a reason that delayed me from fully chasing my dreams.  Then one day this year I was like “self…How can you want more in life when you can’t handle what you have now?”

My mission then became to master the “little” that I have.  Create routine and habit and ORDER.  It’s a lie to think that in order to be a free spirit, your life has to be chaotic.  I’ve never felt freer and its due to creating order and structure.  Days no longer slip away into weeks and months of would’ve, could’ve, should’ve.  Now, if this “man” ever comes along… I know I won’t put my life on hold to tend to him.  When the time is right I’ll actually be able to have a healthy relationship.  But for now, I enjoy the fact that my house isn’t a whirlwind of fabric, patterns, Netflix and lost time.

  • THE TAKE AWAY

Things not happening in the time that you want them to happen doesn’t always mean that you missed the mark; It just means it didn’t happen.   Focus on what did happen.  Focus on the steps (of the things you can control) that you have made.  And for the things you cant control… find the blessing in the pause.

Life is STILL good.

God is STILL good.

40 is STILL coming.

Happy Birthday to me.

And if you want…. cash app me $40 for 40 

Cash app: $Jaikeyl 
 

Jumpers that work for Summer and Fall

Blog, Style & Fashion

Every day should be brunch attire.  Comfy, chic, flattering. I told my friend “I’m going for part PJ’s, part beast in these streets.”  And as I continue to curate my line to bring you some great style choices this jumper has now been added to the roster.

“Jump Man” Jumper

I made this jumpsuit to be a bright piece to be worn from summer into fall. This particular print is a dope very nostalgic very 90’s African print that I picked up from 116th in Harlem.


The rolled hem, kimono sleeve, and wrap front make this a style ease option for the busty and non busty alike.


Spot the donut. #jdilla


This ain’t ya mothers jumper either. This is definitely backside friendly without being too tight or too loose. Baby Bear.


Pair with a denim jacket and loafers in the fall, or a trench and combat boots for a more “breakfast club” vibe.

How would you rock this? What pattern would you want to see? Want to be first on the list of  this release?! As always:  thefashionunder50@gmail.com

Stay dope! Support your local artists! Let’s build.

Free Lipstick!!**Update**

Health & Beauty

MAC is wild wack for the stunt they pulled this morning. 

I called myself getting there “early” by getting there at 9:45am. Swoop in swoop out get my lipstick maybe get a complimentary (paid of course) lip liner because I mean I just got a free lipstick right? Wrong. The line was insane. Like INSANE. But it’s MAC it’s free and it’s a large selection to chose from so… I’ll wait.

Then an (un)fortunate happenstance occurred. The line ended at the beginning allowing me to see the colors available for free.  Y’all… y’all:

This was it. This was what they had to choose from. A FAR cry from all the beautiful colors they teased on their Instagram feed. I mean I know it said selection but all of these colors look the same. I was like (#throwback) “thank you based god for letting me see this foolery here at MAC today.” Still of fan of MAC. NOT a fan of the shenanigans. 

Well it’s #NationalLipstickDay and true to form MAC is re-emerging as a heavy hitter.  Not that MAC hasn’t ALWAYS produced high quality makeup, however the emerging of lower cost products with comparable quality has clearly given the more high end brands a run for their money.  Their #Lipslipslips campaign has been blessing us all summer.  But I don’t see anyone doing this.  I tell you what… I choose free lipstick over free shipping any day!

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So here is the rundown:

  1. You don’t need to buy ANYTHING to get a free lipstick!
  2. It’s first come for serve while supplies last.
  3. It’s in person NOT online
  4. From what I’ve researched, much like the campaign last month, there is a special selection of lipstick that you choose from.

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Fingers crossed to some dope colors that I don’t already own!! Makes sure to get out today and get you one! Tag me on IG with your purchase & a kiss face! @fashionunder50

Amazon Prime Day – Is it The Mid-Summer come up? 

Blog, Techie

Amazon prime day is today! It started last night. I was already asleep. BUT the question is – is it worth it? 

We all like sales but is this just more mindless shopping?  The short answer is yes.  Now I’ll show my hands and admit since April I’ve purchased TWO echo dots and a firestick.  And do you know what I’ve realized? Gadgets begat gadgets.  I stopped buying clothes but have set my site on gadgets and I’m ALWAYS looking to see what upgrades are out.  But IF you’re calculating with your funds; this could really be a midsummer come up. 

Here are some facts.  You have to be a prime member first. Not one? Here. Thank me later (maybe).

I’d say stick to the gadgets because the beauty deals didn’t really strike me as a deal.

* Amazon Echo for $89.99 (save $90) 


I’m a bit salty about this one but I’m going to chill. I have two dots… 

* Amazon Echo Dot (2nd Generation) for $34.99 (save $15) 

Again lowest price EVER. I got my first one for $50 and my second for $40. I could’ve had an echo AND a dot if I’d played the long game… ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

* TP-Link Smart Plug  ($19.99) that’s half off!! Combo that with the $34.99 dot and you have a dope little combo for UNDER $60! 


* Amazon Music Unlimited 4 month Membership for $0.99 


This is for new subscribers only, but a bargain worth trying.  Just set a reminder with Alexa to cancel it after the 4 month trial! 😉

Your Madras

Blog, Style & Fashion

I am a FAN of Madras plaid.  I love it, love it, love it.  Thing is, when something isn’t on trend you don’t see it around as much.  And that sucks because it doesn’t mean it’s not in style.

However, when I was lurking around my local fabric store, I happened upon some non-campy looking Madras!  EUREKA’S CASTLE!! So, I got some fabric and went to town on making some super dope wide leg palazzo pants.   If you’re a seamstress or you sew, you know that completing a project is bittersweet because on one hand, it’s done, but on the other hand it’s like coming to the end of a binge-a-thon.  There is this sick feeling in your stomach that is over.  So, what do you do?  You go to the fabric store and buy more.  Madras is the original statement fabric so why not make two separate things with it?  So that’s what I did.

The Short of it

I LOVE jumpers. I love summer but I also like layering so this madras jumper is everything for versatility. In the summer, you can wear it loose or belted.

  Don’t like your arms? Throw a T under it.  Trying to get away with a jumper and or madras for Casual Friday?  Pair this puppy with a button up and some loafers… thank me later cute hipster light hearted librarian.


Feeling like Rudy in the fall & can’t let summer go just yet? Throw some leggings on under this sucker and a denim jacket on top and you’re good money honey!

The Wide of it.

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Just wear them already.  Soo dramatic. Soo “see me”.  Again, you just really cannot go wrong with a high waist, wide leg pant.  Flattering for most figures, the waist cinches and creates curves and structure.  The darting in the back is a godsend for accentuating backside.  And the wide leg airy fabric makes it feel like you’re walking in an evening gown sans the hassle.

 

If you’re interested in either the Jumper or the pants.  Please hit me up for pricing and pair.  Support your local artist! Support Small biz & community!

Stay Dope

Shop wisely

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MAC Lipstick 💄 Sale 6/21 – 6/25

Blog, Health & Beauty

I see you 👀 MAC. It’s not even National Lipstick Day and you’re out here trying to keep up with the jonses.  I’m TOTALLY not mad at MAC’s current buy 2 Lip products get one free lipstick deal and you shouldn’t be either. 

But here are the details:

It’s not buy 2 lip PRODUCTS get ANY 3rd lipstick free, you only have 6 lipstick colors to choose from.


AND… In store varies from online (sad 🐼).

I went in for the color Barbecue but actual MAC locations (Columbus, OH) only had Mangrove. Two totally different colors, both bright but different. Also once they sell out of the free color, it’s gone. And they are not swapping a similar color. They have special product to (my guess is) ensure no shrinkage during this promotion.


Call ahead. I had to go to two locations and wait like a half hour just for the free lipstick and switch up my purchase options… 😒.  It might sound like a hassle, but IRL it’s not if you have the time and were gonna kill time some other way (that involved spending your hard earned coins). #Mineaswell ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ 

All & all, I’m pleased and so much so that I figured it’s worth he sharing! 

Get Into It – 7 Ways to get Healthier and STAY that Way

Blog, Health & Beauty

7E3275A9-EE7A-4628-B6D8-D04CEC7D73AEI’m not getting any younger. And at this place, I can honestly say it’s harder to fully embrace a healthier lifestyle the more years I have behind me. I mean my teenage years lied to me. They told me if I wish it, it will come (well… not boobs). My twenties lied to me. They told me minimal effort can yield maximum results. And I pretty much rebelled in my thirties because I adopted the you earned it, treat yourself mantra. Now on the very cusp of 40, I find myself chasing time down to gain a lifestyle I should’ve adopted LONG ago.

But let me share a few key ways to grab a healthy lifestyle by the neck and make it your punk.

1. Learn the Difference between Treats and Snacks.
For some reason, I hear Biggie Small’s 10 crack commandments here (number 9 should’ve been number 1). I’ve learned that snacks are the healthy in between meal choices. Treats are those one off, you’ve worked hard this week have a ding dong. But like you legit cannot have a pack of Ding Dongs every day for a snack. 310 calories of sugary destruction. Have a Honeycrisp apple instead.

2. Do it in phases
Ramp yourself up into a lifestyle. Dropping all that you know to pick up new stuff almost always ends in failing and you end up on a binge-a-thon eating ice cream naked in the mirror crying and swearing you see yourself expanding… no? just me? Well, that escalated quickly.

3. It’s gonna take longer; Keep going.
Celebrate the victories, don’t let the setbacks derail you. The older you get, the longer it takes to see progress. I personally suggest food lifestyle change and exercise combo to jumpstart what you want to see. Let’s be honest you can exercise all you want, if you’re still making poor food choices, it’s like casting pearls before swine.

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4. Be Aggressive!
I know I said do things in phases but there’s a battle rhythm to that too. Push yourself to do one more rep. Commit to going to the gym three times a week (I did that). Create GOOD habits and do your very best to stick to them.

5. DETOX.
I cannot stress this enough. When I wasn’t seeing real progress after month 1, I thought “detox kid”. So, I cut out carbs and sweets for one month (NOT February).
Broham.
Changed.
My.
Life.
Aside from the fact that no one was harmed from my detox, I learned HOW to really eat better, I learned that I was addicted to sugar and carbs. And I learned how to level set eating healthy. It’s really changed my outlook on good food choices. BUT…

UNDERSTAND WHAT DETOX CAN DO TO YOU and why it’s good for you
Detox, much like pretty…hurts. I feel like by the time you realize you need to detox from something, you’ve worked up at least a mild addiction to it. So cleansing yourself is key to really get a foothold on healthy lifestyle changes. To be honest I cannot consume sugar like I used too. I’ve had an adverse affect to it lately. What was once a “norm” is now way too much. But isn’t that what we want to see when we make lifestyle changes?

6. Invest in yourself – buy cute (inexpensive) workout clothes

So this worked for me.  I went to Five and Below and balled out… while it was only a $50 Haul, it was just enough to get me going to the gym consistently.  I had no excuse not to go because I had all that I needed.  Not only that, on the weeks when I wasn’t able to meet my work out goal due to ministry obligations, I didnt beat myself up either, it was win, win.

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7. Realize that meal prep takes A LOT of time but it’s worth it
Let’s file this under things Pinterest never tells you but should. They’ll give you a million great ideas for food prep but they never tell you it takes your WHOLE SUNDAY. And let me be honest it does.

Invest in 5 solid recipes and 2 healthy cheats. you can alternate that for three weeks before getting tired of food choices.  And to be honest the BEST way to get a grip on calorie intake is meal prep.  That includes snacks and emergency meals too.

To date I’ve lost over 15lbs. and I’ve reached my “goal” weight.   Now I am working to maintain my health and chisel my body.  Let me know what you do or if anyof these steps work for you!

 

Here’s to long life and good health!

The Dress thats Flattering on Everyone, and Why You Need It.

Blog, Style & Fashion

Meet “Sal”

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Sal – The Perfect Dress STYLE & FASHION

Sal is a closet staple dress because of her cut.  Flattering for almost every shape, you can’t go wrong with this dress style.

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STYLE & FASHION Dress: “Sal”Custom Made from Style Co-op by request.

A fitted bodice and gathered skirt at the waist help to create shape where you lack OR accentuate and bring form to what you already have.

The beauty with Sal is that simple modifications make her an extremely versatile addition to your closet.  Fabric choices from challis to chambray or a medium weight denim add continued diversity to this cut.  With or without sleeves, with a deep hem that goes above the knee or min-midi coming just below the knee.

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I chose my favorite, a raw edge hem and sleeveless bodice.  Coupled with the quilted denim, it gives Sal a fun textured finish.  It you’re interested in getting a dress make sure to contact me below!  Remember, support your local artist, community is life, and stay dope!

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